How To Manifest Your Soulmate
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, I wanted to take a moment to write about manifesting love. I have been married to my best friend for the past ten years and although it hasn’t always been easy, applying some of the steps below and always loving unconditionally has not only saved my marriage during the tough times but also made it stronger.
If you are familiar with Law of Attraction then you probably know that manifestation is an internal process. A lot of it has to do with healing yourself and deepening your connection to yourself and God or whatever energy or higher power you believe in. And lastly, you have to believe, trust, and surrender.
Technically speaking, manifestation is all about tuning in to the frequency of whatever it is that you want to attract into your life. When it comes to manifesting your soul mate, doing all these things may seem like a lot of work but some of these may have already been internalized for you whether you are aware of them or not.
If you are someone who has always fallen into the “wrong relationship” and seems to always fall in love with the “wrong type of person”, then I want you to read each step carefully and take at least two or three things with you that you start consciously working on.1. Love yourself first.
This first step may sound like a cliche but it is absolutely fundamental in attracting true love into your life. If you don’t love yourself, you don’t feel that you are deserving or worthy of receiving love. If you don’t feel that you are worthy of love, then you will automatically self-sabotage anything good that may come your way.
If you don't love yourself, you may sabotage a good relationship or you may fall in love with people who will disrespect you and treat you poorly. Self-love is definitely a journey and an ongoing process for a lot us. It starts with getting to know yourself, then accepting who you are and having the courage to be yourself.
Some of my favorite ways to practice self-love are saying positive I am affirmations as I look at myself in the mirror. I also love to wear my everlur I AM Affirmations tank and my everlur Confidence and Self-worth bracelet.
2. Don’t stress over finding someone.
I have single friends who are obsessed with being with someone. Anyone. It’s almost like they are terrified of being alone with themselves. This ties a bit into point number one. Think about it… if you cannot handle being alone with yourself then how do you expect someone else will. In addition to that, the frequency of stress and worry is very negative. The vibration of love and compassion is very high. If these two frequencies don’t match up then there is no way you will be able to attract your soul mate into your life.
3. Journal about your ideal relationship.
Ask and you shall receive. You need to be very specific about what you are going to ask the Universe. Now this doesn’t mean that you write down the physical characteristics of your soul mate to a T. This is more about the personality traits of your soul mate and how they will make you feel.
Here is an example: My soul mate makes me feel loved, respected, and wanted. When I am with this person, I feel happy and fulfilled. My soul mate is emotionally mature and stable and they love me unconditionally. When they touch me it feels warm, it feels like love, it feels like butterflies, it feels like joy, it feels like passion.
Do you see where I’m going with this?
P.S. Avoid using "I want" and "I wish to have". Always write in present tense.
4. Visualize how it would feel to have true love in your life then do things that make you feel that way already.
After you sat down and wrote down exactly how your ideal relationship would make you feel, it is time to visualize and really feel those feelings. Tune into that frequency. Feel the love, feel the touch, feel, feel, and feel. The secret (and the hardest part) here is to feel those feelings every day before you have found your soul mate. So every day, focus on doing things that would already make you feel those feelings. If you want to be with someone who makes you feel joyous, happy, and loved then focus on doing things that invoke those feelings in you. By doing this, you will be in the frequency of love and happiness and will automatically attract someone to you who is on the same frequency.
5. Let go of your past relationships.
If you have had negative relationships in the past, let go of them. Let go of limiting beliefs around yourself and others. Forgive and let go of how others made you feel bad or did you wrong. Take responsibility. We manifest our own reality, whether good or bad. You consciously or subconsciously attracted a bad relationship into your life and because of your low standards, you let someone treat you poorly. Take blame. Forgive that person and most importantly forgive yourself. Then let go. Let go of the emotional baggage and make room for something beautiful because you know you are amazing and you deserve the best.
6. Don’t distract yourself with shallow relationships.
If you truly want to be with someone who is your soul mate then don’t settle for less. Be selective and don’t fall for physical attraction over true love. Trust me, this will only hurt your self-respect and will end in more negative feelings. Plus while you are busy wasting time with someone who isn’t deserving of your attention, you may be passing by your soul mate and not being in the right receiving mode. Don’t get distracted!!
7. Surround yourself with happy couples.
I know this one can be hard. Being around happy couples who are in love when you are single and really want to wallow in your sorrow isn’t an easy thing to do. However, surrounding yourself with your negative miserable single friends will keep painting that same reality for you. Don’t avoid your friends who are in happy relationships. Be happy for them and bless their love and always wish them well. Remember whatever feelings you project out will come back to you tenfold.
8. Practice gratitude.
Gratitude is the highest vibration of all. Practice gratitude every day. Focus on feelings of gratitude as you meditate or write down everything you are grateful for in your journal. How grateful would you be if you already had that special someone in your life? What are some areas in your life that are already going really well? Be grateful for your health, the roof over your head, the food you get to eat every day, friends and family who love and support you. There is so much to be grateful for. If you love gemstones, check out this gratitude bracelet to help remind you of this practice every day.
9. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world and vice versa.
Tidy up your outer world. Clean up your spaces, your bedroom, closet, your car, your wallet. Wear clothing and jewelry that make you feel great. I wear my everlur Love and Relationship bracelet every day. It reminds me to practice self-love and the beautiful rose quartz and moonstone put me in the vibration of unconditional love.
I hope this post will be helpful to you. Whoever you may be out there, remember that you are worthy of true love. We are all on a journey and everything in life has a purpose. Rumi says “The wound is a place where the light enters you”.
If you haven’t found true love yet, see what you can learn from it. Maybe you still have some growing up to do. Maybe that person who is meant for you has to heal first. Have faith that the timing will be always right. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in life.